Stay home mum, not housewife

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Anyone who has been reading my blog long enough would remember me mentioning that I bought Anthea Turner’s book, How To Be A Perfect Housewife. You would have seen me have some sort of meltdown and start a new blog to chronicle my journey to being a perfect housewife and then you would have seen me come back to my senses and realise that that is just NOT going to happen.

The idea was not to become one of those 50’s housewives who are more like unpaid housekeepers, but more to keep our home neat and organised.

So I found it interesting today when I read Bec’s post, Mummy Martyrs. Go have a read. I’ll wait.

You’re back? OK, let’s go on…..

Bec’s question was

Do you run a perfect household or do you prefer to let the vacuuming wait while you go out for a coffee or pursue your own passions?

A lot of my friends often tell me that I am way more organised than they are or that my house is always tidy. Do they think that I run a perfect household? Hell, no! LOL Because they know that if they’re coming over to visit, they should call or ring to give me some notice so I can run around like a chook with no head and tidy up!

Bill will tell you that there have been times where the living room looks like a bomb has hit it but I’m dressed and ready to go out to lunch or somewhere nice to take photos.

I do take pride in our home but I don’t want to be known as just a housewife. I am my own person and I have no problem in ignoring the pile of laundry or crunchy carpets or the acne treatments left on the bathroom cabinet. If you ask me in the morning what’s going to be for dinner that evening, I probably won’t know but I will know when I’m scrounging around in the freezer or having to run down to the supermarket!

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alleycat1970

This is a really interesting topic! I have a friend who will always choose coffee over house work & will often spend 4 hours each day on the phone waffling on to friends. She has a cleaning lady, an ironing lady, a gardener & they eat out a lot or buy premade stuff in as she hates to cook & their home ALWAYS looks like a bomb site. You usually have to move washing if you want to sit. She is a stay at home mum & as you can see by the assistance, they are pretty well off.

I would be bloody mortified if my house looked like that ALL the time! She says if she died she wouldn't want people to remember her for her housekeeping skills. I sure as hell don't want to be remembered for my lack of them! But that's just MY opinion :0)

I beleive you have to find a happy medium. I work (more than) full time & don't have kids, but by the end of the week our space is pretty messy. I am not anal about cleaning. I'd rather iron (because I can watch a movie) any day than dust. If I want to go out I tend to do a deal with myself first - like put away 100 items (hair pins count!) before I go.

I think we all place a lot of pressure on ourselves these days to be super at everything, but we have to temper that with practicality. Easier said than done i know!